Sunday, September 10, 2017

Dogs & Kitchens


see the dog's bowl on the floor?
I know I would like these people.


and, here, the dog is in the kitchen with the door open so he can go in & out.
I used to do this for FiFi, my Poodle, because she was afraid to enjoy the
outside if the door was closed.  like her own kind of separation anxiety.

the point of all this is:

one of my single women neighbors down the hall has a beautiful white
half Poodle, half something else, called MiMi.

MiMi has had tumors, large tumors on her side & tummy.
finally the puppy broke open one of the tumors and had to be
rushed to surgery to repair this.  she did well.

the owner had a hard time deciding to have a 2nd surgery for the
doggie as the vets told her it was very difficult and would be life-threatening.
but she went ahead with the surgery after struggling all day about it.

the little dog came through after being at the vet's for 24 hours.

then, this woman texted me to ask if I could look in on MiMi while she went out to dinner !!!

I was so worried about the dog that I thought the owner should stay with her just in case.

in the end, she found someone else to look in on MiMi and the owner went out to dinner.

what would you have done ??????

was I a bad friend????



15 comments:

Anonymous said...

I would have watched the dog. It was more about the dog than the neighbor.

Susan said...

First of all, she is not a friend, only a neighbor....also an idiot!!

ci said...

I think it was wrong of her to put that responsibility on someone else . Just after surgery something could easily have gone wrong. She should have stayed home. You did the right thing in my opinion.

celkalee said...

Dinner? Really? The dog comes first and certainly after such an ordeal. Bad friend...I don't think so. Such an uncomfortable position for you. If the dog took a turn while under your care it would surely have been an issue. I tend to judge people by the way they treat their animals and wildlife in general so I am not likely the best arbitrator in a situation like this. I have never not had a dog bowl in my kitchen, the photo of the kitchen reminded me that I will need to get another one, soon.

Mary said...

Did you not see my comment left yesterday Marsha?

Anonymous said...

I had such a strong reaction to this that I had to step away for the day and think it over. I know I always want to believe the best of people, sometimes to my own detriment, but I've finally decided this neighbor is not as much a Disney villainess as she is just... not the brightest bulb in the box. If she were truly callous, she would not have bothered with the potentially risky surgery and associated costs. Going to dinner may be her way of not accepting that her dog remains at a serious health risk level. I agree with your decision not to "look in on" the dog for two reasons. One, if something had indeed happened five minutes before or after your arrival, you know whose fault it would be that you weren't there - yours. And two, hopefully it gave her something to reflect on and work out why going to dinner was not okay; if not right away then maybe next week. I can only imagine how conflicted you felt - I am sorry!

Marsha Splenderosa said...

Thank you, Susan. I thought the same thing.

Marsha Splenderosa said...

I think the little doggie wanted her mama with her, not a stranger looking in. Thank you for this comment.

Marsha Splenderosa said...

She had me on the phone 20 times during all the ordeal. Other neighbors too. And, yes, I said no because I was so afraid something would go wrong. Thank you for this.

Marsha Splenderosa said...

She told me the man "she is dating" didn't like dogs. She's in her late 50's. To put a dinner date before your best friend is not normal to me. So I agree with you and thank you so much for thinking about this seriously. It means a lot to me.

Mumbai said...

no regrets. You have to say no when you feel that your decision is right. Anyway this person
seems to be very selfish.

Mary said...

Yes Marsha, looks like my comment on this post is out in space somewhere, haha!
Anyway dear, I was all for your decision and agree that this person was definitely not doing the right thing regarding her doggie etc.
Mary x

Sue Jubinville said...

Marsha, You absolutely did the right thing, for all the reasons stated above. I agree with your statement about Mimi wanting her mama, not a neighbor. Although in this case, perhaps Mimi prefers the neighbor. My precious May (12 yr young welsh terrier) would be heart-broken if I left her while she wasn't feeling well. And 20 phone calls! How annoying! She should get rid of the non-dog-liking boyfriend, too!

Marsha Splenderosa said...

You are the only person who said this. The responsibility & LIABILITY TOO GREAT FOR ME. I love the little dog, but I think/thought the dog should come first with the owner, not going out to dinner. A mature, responsible pet owner would feel the same way I can assure you.

Marsha Splenderosa said...

Sue, thank you, thank you, thank you. All of you guys feel exactly as I do/did. Now the woman is not speaking to me. Alas.